I find solace in the fact that one-day I will be dead and none of this shit really matters. Anybody else? No? It’s just me then. Don’t get me wrong. I don’t want to die as of yet. Death is boring. It’s a point of no return and as long as you can breathe make the most out of it. My point is that we worry too much for nothing. We are raised in a society full of norms and rules. From the minute you are born, the clock is ticking and there is this invisible force watching over you putting pressure on you to perform. Get born, start talking before 18 months, learn to walk, go to school, get good grades, please your teachers, behave as they tell you, pass out, join college, graduate, find a job, get married, have kids, start a family and the list goes on.
Now, what happens when you don’t follow the pattern, what happens when you break from it? Yes it is essential that we go to school, get educated and proceed to study further according to our interests. We need this to establish a better living. But mind you, there are people who have studied and chosen certain professions based on influence from their parents or others. My parents wanted me to become an engineer. Hell no. Wasn’t interested. No regrets in what I chose even though it gives me no sort of income. But this rant is not about the education bit. It’s about the hypocritical society we live in.
Look at the unemployed shame and worker’s pride. People who are unemployed get no respect. Society treats the unemployed as a burden. Trust me on this. Don’t even argue. I was in that phase. Let’s talk about life partners. Where I live, if you are not married by your mid thirties, (which is already late for males) oh boy, then you are going to have a hard time. Get prepared to get isolated. It will happen. Trust me on this again. No, I haven’t experienced it firsthand, but I will. But then how do I know? I’ve seen it happen.
Fuck society man. It’s a giant turd. Break the norms. If you are fortunate and wealthy enough of course you are free to do what you want. No body is going to ask. But if you do your finances now and then struggling to pay those bills then things might be a bit different. Lying in bed and mentally calculating your expenses for the next few weeks when you’re supposed to sleep isn’t the best thing. That’s when you are forced to do a job, whatever it may be. And then you are stuck with it for the rest of your life.
So when are we going to break free? When are we going to do what pleases us the most? After we die? Will we come back as zombies? Is it acceptable to not give the society flying fucks? What are your parents going to say? Oh the shame! Your relatives will think you are just lazy and want an escape. Well not just your relatives. You might even lose a couple of friends for your chilled out attitude on life. People won’t stop judging you.
What many people fail to realize is that there is only one life. There is only one chance. So do what you want to do. The sky’s the limit. Do you want to leave everything behind and travel? Do it. No money to travel? Then start by exploring your country. Being rich is not defined with currency notes alone.
I’d like to do that at one point. Go away. Live life like a hippie (one that showers everyday though). See the mountains. Breathe fresh air. Feel the fresh grass with bare heels. Wake up to that scenic beauty everyday. Travel. Live in different houses. While at it, offer to do some work for your host. Erect a fence, plough that field, sow some seeds, make some furniture, be a shepherd for a day, fix their car, paint that house. Learn new skills that are actually useful. Keep moving. Minimalism is the key. De-clutter your mind. Have fewer things to worry about. Meditate. Come back to normal life. Realize how shitty the world is again. Travel more.
But wait, that’s stupid isn’t it? No one in the right mind would do that. We were trained to obey certain rules and norms for living in ‘utopia’. We live in a perfect world. We all do. At least we think so. The bitter truth is that you have to be society compatible to achieve certain things. The trick lies in knowing what to do when and where to maintain a balance. Once you figure that out. You’re the boss. So does anything really matter? Depends. Based on your priorities and the way you look at life. It’s complicated!